Married couple ready casual encounter

Funny, geeky guy looking for nice, geeky girl. Hi there,
Why am I here? I've been single for a while and I'm starting to realize that I'm not really close to anyone, at least not in the way I want to be. It's not really an option with my friends or family, mostly because of extenuating life circumstance, but I figure it's more appropriate to have an intimate emotional relationship with a girlfriend anyway.
I want someone who wants to try to understand me and finds me interesting, someone who I am special to and someone who I feel the same way about. I realize that these things take time, however I have also met women who I quickly knew that I could have feelings for one day. I miss the feeling of being genuinely interested in another person and knowing that they want to learn about my own inner world as well.
I moved back to Colorado Springs 3 years ago and since then I have dated a lot of women in town but I have yet to find that special connection, that sort of vibe where you are excited about the person potentially being in your life and can see yourself loving them in the future. Where is that? Does it just go away as we get older? I've definitely connected with a few cool people, but they disappeared before we really got to know each other or found much of a spark.
I hate saying this for so many reasons, but I feel misunderstood by most everyone in my life. I'm not bragging when I state this but I have a very high I.Q. It makes it so hard to connect with people...more often than not, I feel like a space alien because it's like there is all this stuff in life which is part of my normal perception that people can't, or don't want to, think about or live with...and that makes it nearly impossible for me to respect them on a personal level - on a generic human level? Totally. Just not as a partner.
I know I'm a genuinely good person and a great partner but I also know that most folks say as much. I'm not a bad looking guy although I could lose 20 or 30 lbs, I smoke cigarettes but I'm trying to quit and I have facial hair (its not wild and bushy though!), all of which are sometimes deal breakers however I'm not shallow and want nothing to do with vain people, so if that stuff is really a big deal to someone I see it as keeping the narcissistic human trash at bay. You should probably know that I'm an introvert for the most part; I don't party (anymore), don't really like alcohol, and can't handle large groups of new people. You could even say I'm a bit shy, but that tends to come and go. Those aren't popular traits, but along with them comes a very thoughtful, insightful, loyal, hilarious, warm, affectionate and compassionate person. Good trade-off, right? You should know that I'm fairly accepting of others: if you're inexperienced, shy, or even a little crazy you can be sure I'll give you a chance regardless.
Some things I like to do:
Read. Play video games. Cook. Give massages (I went to school for it). Make music. Make people laugh. Go on road trips and adventures. Cuddle. Watch movies. Take hot baths. Play MTG. Drink lots of coffee, Smoke cigarettes, and have deep conversations. Love. Grow as a person. Educate myself. Lift weights. Make people feel good/safe/taken care of.
I'd prefer you be at least 25, the older the better (within reason). I might consider someone younger but you'll have to really impress me. If you choose to write, please make it more than a single line - even a barrage of questions is better than that.
You really need to be looking for a monogamous, long term relationship and know what you want/where you are at or else you are wasting both of our time, as I'm not looking for new friends or someone to date for just a few weeks.
Maybe we'll talk soon? : )
p.s. I smoke weed, but I am not a brain-dead pot head and I expect the same.